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  • Beginning Death

    Beginning Death

    I’ve been building a relationship with death.

    I work as a clinical director at a local hospice. I am an RN.

    I began this work on the heels of a few colleagues and friends dying and also just after my father died in Sep 2023. In the years prior to my father dying I also underwent many personal mini deaths. Deaths of parts of my ego structure, belief systems and emotional pattering that I healed and integrated into myself, thus falling away. All of this set me up to come into this hospice work and begin to build this relationship I am evaluating and exploring with death. 

    There is a way I feel that I close off connection with others when its too taxing or doesn’t serve me. This is the result of recent exploration of boundaries, new boundaries, so they may be getting out of hand. So I am noticing that now that I know I can set boundaries, maybe I need to reengage with others try for more connection knowing I can hold boundaries in place if I need to and keep myself safe. 

    This is coming up right now because I’ve been building this conversation with death, which seems to be at the base of all my of fears and terror: that I’m going to die.

    I’ve also been watching this show called, “Dying for Sex” in which we watch a woman and her best friend navigate the woman’s death from cancer and her desire to self actualize using sex before she does so. It also shows the profound love between two friends. 

    There is an interesting scene where a hospice nurse explains death and dying to them in a really quirky and explicit way. 

    I don’t do this often in hospice with my clients. Even though I perceive myself as being able to hold a lot of vulnerability in my life and profession, maybe I am stunted a bit in my capacity to really support clients in the time before death but not being super open about what is going to happen to them and openly volunteering that information. It made me wonder, does my fear of engulfment from others strong emotions prevent me from going deep with people? Do other hospice nurses do this?

    I was on a date yesterday and the man was a wonderful human, but was physically not compatible for me. We elected to continue our day long date even though there was uncertainty about compatibility. I noticed that once I identified he wasn’t a fit for me I totally shut down and went numb. Severing energetically the connection. 

    He commented on his feelings in his body, and in response to this asked me to connect more. 

    I identified that I had trust issues about men not really wanting to be friends with me but only wanting to keep me around because they like my energy and maybe want to fuck me. So I just was planning on cutting this guy out of my life as extraneous and not being it as an opportunity to lean into the potential connection as friends or colleagues. Underlying this pattern is trust. And fear of engulfment, fear of doing the wrong thing, of moving too fast and of falling in love with someone that is not right for me. And thus having pain and suffering which under that is fear of abandonment and death. 

    When I identified all this and spoke about it with him, the numbness lifted. The weirdness lifted. He said he then was able to feel connected. And we had a really nice time despite not being the right fit as romantic partners. 

    So I am wondering, how do keep myself safe and dive deep into connection without it making me feel engulfed and exhausted and worrying I will die?

    Can I expand my capacity with my clients and hold more vulnerability with them and more openness such as the TV nurse?

    Can men and women be friends? 

    Can I ask the numbness to move aside to enable more connection and thus love in my life?

    Can I stop seeing romantic love as the only love that will fill the hole?

    I feel as if I am asking death to teach me this. I don’t know how to explain that connection but it’s there for me. 

  • Weekly Planetary Connection Meditation

    I’ve been feeling called to hold in person meditations on holding our whole planet in love.

    Below is the meditation that has come through me for this purpose.

    If you are near Taos, NM please come! I’ll place my IG link in my bio. But if not, please take some time to practice meditation. And share it with friends.

    Thank you 🙏🏼

    Arrive to this place.

    Feel your sits bones on the ground.

    Breathe down into your hips.

    Feel the breath coming in and out of the tip of your nose, whether it’s warm or cool.

    I invite now, our guides and all of our ancestors and the spirits and energies of this land, past and present to come be with us now for our and the planet’s highest good.

    I ask for all of our energy to be brought back to us now cutting and clearing ties that no longer need to be there.

    Clearing agreements and belief systems and patterns that no longer serve us, clearing that energy as it comes back to us, so that we can be here now in our fullest divinity in service to our planet and to each other.

    Now I’d like you to imagine a great golden orb, up above your head. This giant golden orbs originates from whatever divine source it is that you identify with.

    On your in breath, I’d like to see this light filling you, washing through all of your cells, filling you up until you’re positively plump with this divine healing light.

    If there are any particular areas of disease in your body, go ahead and place a hand there and see more of that light filling that area and some curiosity and some compassion and some love to those areas to bring them back into balance.

    See yourself well, see yourself in balance. See yourself happy and able to provide love to this planet and its inhabitants.

    Breathe into your heart

    Now imagine and see this light swelling your heart, feel this, feel your heart.

    What do you notice?

    On the in breath, please see your heart expand bigger and bigger, and the out breath bring it back down into your chest, bigger and smaller with the in breath and out breath, bringing it in and out.

    How big can you make it?

    Now start allowing it to stay big and to get bigger.

    Imagine your beautiful heart is holding your neighbor next to you.

    Imagine you can hold all the people around you.

    Imagine the whole town, the county, New Mexico.

    Do you have someone out of state? You can include them now.

    Let’s keep expanding.

    Think about those populations across the globe, about the mothers, the children in war torn regions.

    Gaza, Ukraine, Africa.

    Notice, does it hurt?

    Your heart can contain that too.

    Don’t look away, your heart has the capacity to hold and transmute the hurt.

    Can you include the aggressors?

    Can you include the ones, the groups, who are not in touch with their souls divinity? With their hearts?

    Can you hold that as well?

    Breathe in and out.

    Hold your heart.

    Hold all these populations of struggling humans.

    Let’s include the planet.

    We are still breathing in divine light and love from our giant golden orb, from divine source.

    We are not creating this light, we are connected to all that is.

    See this light filling you and then also see you are also connected to the grid of the planet.

    To all that is.

    Feel our amazing mother, this pulsing, living entity.

    Feel it under you, around you.

    Feel that your heart is connected to all things and hold the whole planet and all those humans.

    Send your love.

    Breathe with us

    Send your love.

    See Israel, see Palestine. s

    See that the ground beneath them is the same.

    Send your love.

    See the love of the planet reaching these hearts, see them waking up to their own divinity.

    Our whole planet.

    You can.

    You can do this.

    Your heart was made for this.

    Send your wish for our connectedness.

    Now begin to bring yourself back, knowing that you are always connected to all that is.

    In your highest good, bring yourself back.

    Breathe this golden light and love in through the top of your head and down through your crown, your third eye, your throat, make some noise on your out breath if you’d like to.

    Breathe this light down into your heart.

    See congruency, see healing for yourself.

    Breathe down into your solar plexus,

    Your womb, whether you are male or female breathe light into this space.

    And breathe down into your root.

    Feel yourself rooted into the Earth while you are simultaneously connected to the divine and all that is.

    Breathing through the top of your head and into the Earth, feel your sit bones.

    Feel your feet.

    Flex your ankles.

    We will make the sounds of three ohms with the intention that we are clearing and elevating the vibration of all.

    Breathe in Gathering the light : Ohmmm

    Breathe in Gathering the light : ohmmm

    Breathe in gathering the light: ohmmm

    So it is.

    Thank you for your service to humanity and our planet

  • Being Near to it

    Sometimes the greatest challenge for me has been either living my life in the fear of past traumas or living my life in fear of failure or of incoming reinforcement of my wounds, my negative belief systems and patterns.

    I believe we all have an impetus to heal. There lies a desire within each soul to reach a balance and expression of our soul’s purpose or service to humanity. 

    As we come into these human forms we come into a structured system that layers us with belief systems and wounding, defenses/protectors to cover over our often little child parts or traumatized parts so that we can keep functioning, keep living, survive until we can adult at level that we can heal ourselves, reparent ourselves. 

    It’s a simple beginning to acknowledge that there are layers upon us that need to be known. It’s another step further to learn what is needed to begin to move forward into healing. 

    Our upcoming retreat will help you begin the unraveling, help you get closer to being able to stay in your body and witness your wounds and your fear with compassion in a mindful way.

    Whenever we face confusion, fear, the aftermath of trauma, transitions in our lives, it’s easy to let our habitual fears and patterns take us over and for us to react from those parts of ourselves. And by doing so possibly causing further entrenchment into the very patterns we want to heal. 

    I have been going through a few super distressing things for me and my family recently, so have been watching this process unfold inside me. Feelings of confusion, terror, ungroundedness, not being wanted…super painful sensations in my body related to these emotions.

    Here are some simple things to practice when we have terror, sadness, anger, any big deal emotion really, even LOVE; come up and we find ourselves overcome or almost overcome with the feelings. 

    Stop.

    Take a deep breath, breathe down into your hips, expanding your lower belly,

    Feel your feet on the ground, imagine the grounding resource under your feet and feel roots shooting down as you breathe, feel your sitz bones in your chair, notice your fingertips, feel your breath coming in and out of the tip of your nose whether it is warm or cool. 

    If you can inquire inside, or close your eyes and send your attention and your curiosity inward do so and identify where in your body this big emotion lives. 

    For me it is usually in the solar plexus or heart and it can be a very painful or burning sensation, or it can make me breathe faster, have severe anxiety…

    So just be curious about the sensations, put your two hands on the area of your body you feel the emotions or sensations and just gently hold. 

    I always think about and tell my clients, these are our sweet little wounded parts, how would you treat your children if they were feeling this way? You would hold them, right? Tell them it’s alright, send general care in their direction? 

    So do that for yourselves. Be with the pain or the sadness or anger or the overwhelming loving feelings. Stay right next to them witnessing with compassion and mindfulness. If you hear or see yourself going into the story of the wounding, stay with your breath, just stay with the feelings, allow the feelings to be energy passing through and as you witness them they are allowed to go. Save the processing of the story, which can be valuable to do for sure, for a session with your therapist. 

    Imagine your own sweet heart sending love and compassion, holding and a beingness with the pain or powerful emotion.

    This practice is to keep you present with what is, help you to keep doing the next right thing for your highest good and to help you not be overcome by the past or future. Just let the feelings be what they are; feelings, energy in need of compassionate witnessing. 

    Please join Donna and I on a wonderful wilderness transformation retreat in the mountains of northern New Mexico in Taos Ski Valley, July 22nd-25th 2021! Where we will use our bodies in nature to practice some of these tools and move you into your souls full expression! Lets blow 2020 out of water bring ourselves into life in 2021!

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